hubby saw a lookalike of me in a porn movie and believed it was me

Lin
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I have been having issues with my husband lately. It all started the day an old friend dropped me off at home and decided to pop in to have a chilled glass of water. My husband happened to be home and I introduced her to my husband of which she left shortly after. When she left, hubby started asking how and where I knew her from. She happened to be an old school mate whom I haven't seen in 12years. I ran into her at the grocery shop after work and after exchanging pleasantries she offered to drive me home and also know where I live. This was about a year ago.

Now, the crux of the matter between my husband and I is that he is a porn addict. There is nothing I have not done to make him stop this habit. After much fights and arguments, it seemed he stopped. He assured me he has stopped. Since there is no way to check if truly he stopped, I assumed he did because I have not caught him in recent time.
Last week, he came with an accusation that I am a porn star. He came to me and showed me a video click (porn) that one of the ladies in the video was me. Initially, I laughed it off because it was so silly of him to have thought I could do such. Not impressed with my reaction, he slapped me and reminded me how serious he was.
There were three ladies in the video and the face or the frontal part of one of the lady was not visible. May be, she probably did not want her face shown. According to my hubby, from her back view, he could tell I was the one in the video. As silly as this may sound, I was already getting agitated and infuriated as a result of the slap he gave.
At this point, I did not know whether to fight him, deny it etc, I was completely gobsmacked.
It was during our arguments that he revealed to me that my friend is a porn star and that he was sure that she was the one that introduced me to it. At this point, I lost it. So he knew all along that my friend was a porn star and he never told me. How was I supposed to know when my friend never revealed to me what she does? Besides, we weren't too close so why should I be bothered with what she does if truly she was a porn star.
This was a man that assured me that he was not into porn anymore. If he was not into it then how come he saw a person and assumed it was me. When I put across this question to him, he defence was that it was my plan to stop him from watching porn because I had plans of joining so that when I join, I will not be seen by him.
He has not spoken to me or eaten my food since we had this argument. He said until I explain the person in the video that nothing will happen between us.

I am so sad, frustrated and mad that my husband could even think of this let alone accuse me of acting in a porn movie. This is so degrading to say the least.
Honestly, I really do not need an advice because I already know what to do. I just needed to voice out my anger and frustration because it was becoming too heavy a burden to bear.

259 days ago

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grace
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I do not understand why somebody would want to be watching porn. What is the attraction when you have a wife? There is no respect in watching porn especially when you have a partner. This is a habit people develop and from what I know, bad habits die hard. When you are married and still do not know what your partner could and could not do then you are not worthy to be called partners.
If he insist on you explaining what you did not know then he should be ready to explain what he was doing when he saw you in the video.

Marriage is good but ladies please always endeavour to study and know the man you intend to spend the rest of their life with.

259 days ago

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Ola
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I do not know why he would want to accuse you with no concrete evidence. May be you are in the habit of doing something untoward hence the accusation. There is no smoke without fire as they say though this is not to say that you are irresponsible. Sometimes, our actions determine how we are perceived and treated. I feel you should involve family in friends if he still continues to behave in this manner.

259 days ago

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mimi
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I think his head is messed up as a result of consistent watching of porn otherwise; he would not have accused you of being who you are not. People allow devil to come into their families by their irresponsible and irrational behaviours and afterwards they start looking for whom to blame. This one of the many problems we face in marriage.

I know how painful it can be when you are being accused of what you did not do but regardless, do not lose your essence as a lady.

This too shall pass.

259 days ago

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kunle
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Sometimes, people accuse you of what they are capable of doing themselves. You better watch out.

254 days ago

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Uju
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I bet your relationship with your friend is the reason for the accusation. The question is; how sure was he that your friend is a pornstar? He should not go about accusing people of what they are not. He should be mindful of litigation.

254 days ago

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