While in high school,
I dated this guy for about six months before we called it quit. We went our
separate ways because we were not compatible.
He was too controlling and very outgoing. No house or school party will
be complete without him gracing it back then. In fact, he was making me do things I could
not have ordinarily do. I felt there was nothing in the relationship for me and
besides, we were so young, so I had to quite.
Well, just a couple of
days ago, my friend and I were on our way back from an event so we decided to
pass through her boyfriend’s office, lo and behold, it was my ex boyfriend that
she is dating. Initially, I was taken a back because I had no incline she knew
my ex. It was an awkward moment for both
of us when we saw each other face to face for the first time in years.
Anyway, we greeted
and exchanged pleasantries then, we talked about our high school days
To cut the story short,
after we left her boyfriend, my friend was very curious as to how we knew each
other and if he was a good guy back then. The truth is this; I could not come
to terms with myself telling her that we were once lovers. I do not know how
she will take it and sincerely speaking, I cannot tell if he is still that same
old person I knew then or he has changed to be a better guy now. I am seriously
tempted to tell her the truth but the outcome of it is my worry in case it does
not go down well with her.
Guys, please what do
I do?
245 days ago
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the other hand, if her husband decides to tell her, it will be a betrayal on my
part to my friend and she may not forgive or trust me ever again.
244 days ago
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If she is really your best friend and someone you can trust, then you should tell her the truth. Just say you both dated but it was nothing serious. It is not in your place to give details of his character because he might not be the same person you knew in the past. Allow your friend figure it out herself.
243 days ago
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I
appreciate all that you have said. Recently, I spoke with a cousin of mine and
it and she said, telling her might bring an end to that relationship. He fear
is that, whatever I tell my friend, if they eventually get married, her husband
might chose to tell her a different thing from what I had told her and this
might bring a strain to our friendship.
I
really don’t know what to do honestly.
243 days ago
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Isn’t he your past? Do
you still intend to date him? I see nothing wrong in telling your friend. In
fact, telling her may be a better way for her to assess the guy thoroughly.
Mind you, marriage is a journey of no return. I am sure you won’t be happy if your
friend comes back to you tomorrow telling you that she married the wrong guy
for something that could have been corrected if only you told her. Please, do
not do this to your friend.
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