I came across a post written by Ese Eriata, the lady that featured in big brother Nigeria where she compared relationships in the past to the present.
I will allow you to read the pieceâ€¦
â€˜A lot has changed In
Love is not what it use to be...
Back then love was all that mattered
We didnâ€™t use to care about fancy houses and cars, we didnâ€™t use to mind flying okada with someone we are in love with, we didnâ€™t use to bother if there was no money to buy fancy shoes and clothes, all we wanted was just one another and build our dreams with amazing and beautiful words. On a weekend night when there was no money to hang out and have fun we just stay at home in bed listen to the best kind of R & B and just cuddle till morning and wake up like we had the best night ever, or watch movies in bed, then it was ok to buy fast food and ice cream just to surprise us, sometimes a little teddy bear, love letters and cards was like the best surprise ever and the feeling was always genuine and pure with so much love in the heart. Love was unconditional and true, then we never had a reason why we loved that special someone, their flaws looked perfect in our eyes, love use to be beautiful and true until everything changed.
Now itâ€™s all based on material things, a womanâ€™s first sentence is â€œhe has to be richâ€ â€œhe has to be cuteâ€, now they wanna be with the ones buying tables at the club, someone who can gift them luxury items, someone who can take them on vacation, someone who can take them to the nicest restaurant in town.
Then the men goes â€œ she has to be very prettyâ€ â€œmust have nice bodyâ€ â€œmust be light skinâ€ â€œmust be fashionableâ€ â€œmust know how to speak well, they just want someone that when their friends see her they are gonna be like â€œwow your girl is hotâ€. They donâ€™t even wanna see beyond the inner beauty from the start.
Breakfast in bed now is a joke to some people, singing for someone You love even doe your voice ainâ€™t all that is even a bigger joke now, feels like no body has time for that anymore.
Cooking or washing dishes together is like punishment now, itâ€™s no longer considered as romantic moments.
When people say the word â€œ I love youâ€ it comes from the deepest part of their heart, but now the word â€œI love youâ€ is like saying â€œgood morningâ€ no regard for the word, it can be said even when itâ€™s not from the heart....â€™
I couldn't agree less. Nowadays, people are quick to jump into relationships but lack the will power to sustain it.
Relationship is not all about sex and Material things. Itâ€™s about love, friendship, companionship, support, oneness, happiness etc.
Remember, if you choose material things over substance then you relationship maybe as good as gone.
517 days ago