Recently, I read about a woman who
was beaten and injured by her husband for refusing to engage in anal sex with
him.
Ever since I read this, I have been
pondering over what should be termed right or wrong in marriage.
Marriage as we know is a lifelong affair and as every religion demands, we must submit our body to our partners for sexual gratification when demanded.
Having said this, there has been a
shift in this pattern as some partners are now demanding what some see as naturally
wrong to their partners, if not, how can one describe a request for anal sex
from a partner? Is this sort of demand what a wife/partner should obey? The
shift in the traditional way of doing things is beginning to put unnecessary
pressure on marriages and this is contributing to break ups in marriages.
Some of these desires are habits
people form over time and some are formed as a result of the increased
availability of pornographic movies and toys on the internet which had
transformed the perception of sex between couples. In a bid to explore
everything that has been portrayed on the internet, some individuals cross the
line by demanding what is unnatural from their partners thus abusing sex.
That one is married does not mean one
is free from being labelled a sexual abuser. When a husband instigates any
sexual act that is contrary to the norm and his partner says no to it, if he
goes ahead to execute that, he can be held and charged for sexual assault.
Therefore, we should all know that
marriage is not bondage where every thought that comes to one's head shall be
executed to the latter. We should learn to respect our partners and most
importantly listen to them when they couldn't agree with us.
589 days ago
I believe there is a limit to everything we do whether in marriage or otherwise. When sex is not consensual it is rape period.
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