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  • iris
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    It is a pity you feel this way. For me, i would never go back to such an ex. He left me to explore when I needed him most without no explanation, he got tired of the lady she left me for and all of a sudden  he remembers me. 

    First of all, no good man would see a married woman and wants her to leave her husband for him. If he could convince you to leave ur husband then he is equally able to leave you when he is tired of you.

    Secondly, the way you spoke of your husband shows he is  a good man.  Why on earth would you want to leave such a man for a man you lost contact with for ages and who probably might be a different individual compared to the time you knew. The little time you spent with him when he came back wasn't satisfactory so why do you want to make that mistake again?

    You had better erase whatever feelings you got for this man and face your husband and your family. Remember, not all that glitters is gold.

    A word is enough for the wise.



    633 days ago

  • elna
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    This is one big mistake you will ever regret if you made that move. What you feel for your ex is nothing but infatuation which will fizzle out the moment you start living with him. Good men are hard to find these days and also remember, you can only be with one man except you are ready to be jumping from one man to another.

    Please, do not leave your hubby  for no man.

    633 days ago

  • turpe
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    You can't claim to love your husband when a part of you is with another man. That is no love.

    Love is patient, love is kind, love is sweet, love endures, love conquers...i can go on and on... 

    Have you ever thought about the devastating effect this may have on your hubby if he finds out you are thinking about another man? I'm sure you got conscience, so do not do what you wouldn't want others to do to you. 

    I will suggest you tell your husband about this temptation so that you guys can walk through it together. This is one of the easy ways to distroy such feelings because when he is aware, he will always ask about it and there will be no room for secrets. But you have to be sure he is not the jealous type and won't misconstrue your explanation before opening up to him.

    633 days ago

  • Sunshine
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    iris

    You are right. I do understand where your coming from and I don't want to ruin my marriage.  I suppose it's good go hear it from other people too, not just from my own inner voice.  

    632 days ago

  • Sunshine
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    elna


    That's what having been crossing my mind too, that if that was going to happen .. the feelngs would eventually fade away once together.. and yeah, my hubby is good ,and don't want to ruin that 

    632 days ago

  • Sunshine
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    turpe

    I can't tell my hubby. He will get the wrong idea. And it's not like I have met the guy or anything. I'll have to face it on my own .. and hope I come out okey on the other end 

    632 days ago

  • sibi
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    Sunshine

    If you can't speak to your husband about it then you need to cut off ties with him. You can start by changing your phone number and all other contact info he has.  You have to be very serious  with this. 

    631 days ago

  • Sunshine
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    sibi

    Yeah I know, I did. 

    631 days ago

  • Anika
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    Have you ever been cheated on? Do you know what it feels to be cheated on or go through a heart break? If you have answers to these questions then imagine what it would have been for you if the table turns and your husband was the one struggling with these thoughts and imaginations of yours and you were the one at the receiving end. 

    There is a saying that goes ' a priest is without honour in his town'. You don't know what you have in your hubby until you lose him. Please flee from all trappings of the devil. If a 'good husband' in your words can't make you happy, then, a fugitive ex can't either. Please read between the lines and see that there is no road where you are planning to head to. If you could entertain the thought of leaving your husband, then your ex will make it number 2 husband that you will eventully dump in the future. This may sound harsh but i am only trying to make you reason objectively.

    Never you  spit the apple in your mouth away for the one you are yet to eat for it may be rotten when you eventually eat it. 

    I pray it ends well for you.

    631 days ago

  • Sunshine
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    Anika

    First of all, yes, I have been cheated on and left behind and yes I do exactly know how bad and sour it feels and tastes. 

    Second of all, as soon as the thought of my ex crossed my mind, I started asking close friends and posting it here and there to get other people's perspective. Because believe or not, I do feel guilty even though I have NOT done anything. But the thought it self is enough to make me feel as such. 

    And thirdly, please try to voice your opinion in a much calmer and kinder tone. Because I already am feeling bad, so I need a supportive and kind ear to hear not one that is blaming me .. Because if i didn't feel bad, I wouldn't be here  telling my story. 

    Good day to you. 

    629 days ago